I realised recently that for such a long time I have been focusing on getting time on my own. And honestly, it's not that easy when you have four kids aged 5 to 17 as well as work to take care of. But honestly, as time on my own or with friends had been a goal of mine for a while, I suddenly came to understand that I have actually acheived it a while ago: I do spend time with my friends on a regular basis, we do go out for dinner and drinks occassionally and there is room for longer conversations on the phone. Yes!
So now, there is actually room for more than just surviving with the kids. We are over the days with diaper changes, long sleepless nights and worries about small kids stuff. For a while I have hoped it would one day be possible to have one on one time with each of the boys - and this is something I would do as often as possible. Yesterday our oldest son and I got to spend a whole day together and it was amazing! I have already agreed with our 10 year old that we should spend time just the two of us the upcoming weekend.
Nice dinners with the family
This is a difficult one for many busy families, because no matter what some may say, it does take time to cook dinner every night. Although I have always cooked dinner every night, I must admit I get tired of it at times. After a long while with routine dinners (lasagne on Mondays, pita bread on Tuesdays etc), I just made up my mind to give our dinners som TLC the month of March. It has actually worked great so far. I put on some soft jazz music and start preparing things a bit earlier than I usually do to avoid stress and tired kids.
The dinner at night is the only time during the day where we are all gathered. Most evenings it's really cosy, sometimes not so much. That's how life with kids is,
Enjoy the little things
Maybe it's part of getting older. Appreciating the little things such as a pause during a busy day. A nice cup of tea from my favourite tea shop. Reading a bedtime story for the youngest. My husband's hugs. My new Chanel perfume. A text message from my parents. I will do more of that in March. And onwards.